I don’t know if I’m too naive or if my mother’s too paranoid.
She believes that just because we are in a long distance relationship and that we don’t see each other every single minute of every single day, that he is possibly cheating on me. Or dating someone else at the same time.
Now I can’t say that that thought has never crossed my mind. But I choose to believe him. And honestly, she is way too overprotective. She will think that I am oblivious to the concerns that she has. She will think up situations where he would be doing me wrong. I call this paranoia and lack of trust.
Just the other day I mentioned to her that Mr. A has just finished his thesis, but his adviser is too busy at the moment to read through it (as he is in Japan attending some important international conference). My mother, being the paranoid protective mother that she is, comes to me and says, “Have you ever thought that that could be an excuse he made up?”
Me: Uh….(thinking: shit, here it goes again)….excuse for what?
Mom: Don’t you think he is just stringing you along?
Me: No, and I don’t have a reason to believe that.
Mom: *starts to get huffy and puffy* You’re not getting any younger, you know.
Me: *starts to get hot and irritated* I know, but that’s my problem, not yours.
And then it was another intense “chat” about my relationship with Mr. A. I’m so over this. Seriously, she needs to cut me some slack. Maybe I need to sit her down and let her know that maybe…just possibly in the future, that Mr. A and I might take it to another level. Oh boy am I looking forward to that conversation. Might as well just dig my eyeballs out with a spoon. Ugh.
